Setting Goals

It's February! I'm not about a month into my new year's resolutions. . . or, more accurately, non-resolutions. I'll explain!

Recently, it occurred to me that my habit of making new year's resolutions was dead-ending every year. This bothered me. . . why set out to do something, only to not see it though? Every January, the urge to course correct sets in like clockwork. Year after year. It's what we do, no? It's a natural tendency (possibly due to the the overeating and overspending that commences during the last quarter of the year?? Kidding. . . sort of) Either way, it is innate for us, as humans, to desire greatness and accomplishment. Determined to find a better way of pursuing my goals, I decided to abandon the predictable routine of making new years resolutions. Admittedly, it was hard not to. My love for lists runs deep. The list-maker in me creates such lists faster than I devour a box of skittles at the movies. . . I mean, if I ate skittles.

Over are the days of making lists filled with unrealistic commitments and audacious feats, then becoming disappointed a few months in. If I'm going to be successful in my mindset shift, I needed to pinpoint the root of my problem. By no means do I claim to have found the secret to success; but I have to start somewhere. Here's a few possible ideas as to why I wasn't reaching my goals:

  1. Placing a timeframe on my new years resolutions and being disappointed if they're not accomplished by April.
  2. Underestimating the time and effort it will require to attain or achieve the goal.
  3. Wishing for one great, extraordinary moment of accomplishment; rather than reveling in the "micro moments" it takes to get there.

Think of a painting and the complexities of the model's skin tone. Pretend the artist decided to mix one generic paint color and apply it all at once. No technique to reveal the lighting or facial expression was used. The painting would lack depth and there would be no wonder. The beauty of the finished work lies in the arduous process of layering, color blending, and studying the subject to capture the depth and tones thereof. Which is more beautiful and celebrated? The one big moment resulting in a lack of depth, or the moment that was composed effort and skill, thoughtfully layered over time?

So, I'd like to propose a mindset shift to you. . . begin celebrating the present, as idolizing the future will lead you nowhere. Decide to revel in every micro-moment that brings you closer to reaching your goals.

Step back and view the beauty and excitement of your goal. Now acknowledge the many different lines, tones, and perspective exhibited by the brushstrokes therein.

Give your goal the gift of dedication, and in turn receive the gift of accomplishment.

Thanks for visiting! Hope I've inspired you in some way.